When Coronavirus hit NYC mid-March my husband abandoned me to go to Arizona with his mistress (I didn’t know I was being cheated on!) It’s been an emotional roller coaster for me. I am also his sponsor on his green card via marriage. He has his conditional green card for 18 more months. I feel he used me for immigration. I’m starting a new job in 3 weeks. It will be a nice distraction but I am just not emotionally well. I am trying to go through the divorce process too. (Cont)

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SJWs: Abolish ICE!
OP: I'm an American and my immigrant husband is cheating on me.
Also SJWs: Call ICE immediately and let him to be deported.

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Meant the general counsel*

No need to play dirty and stress yourself out. Just divorce him and leave it in your passed. He wasn’t shit to begin with. Karma will eventually catch up with him.

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I may be wrong but I think for the first few years you are held financially responsible for the person you sponsor....might want to look into that. You look out for you, make sure you are taken care of. As for him, don’t let what he did take any more energy out of you. He is not worth it and like it has been said, karma will catch up to him! No doubt. Wish you the best of luck.

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Ohh and if you have any joint accounts, withdraw everything before he does. Cancel all joint credit cards immediately.

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I canceled all joint accounts when I discovered what had happened!

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Your lawyer should help you with that. They would submit that the marriage was entered into for fraudulent purposes (entering the country). ICE would take it up from there. Focus on exiting, hide assets, and then treat yourself.

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She said she has evidence of infidelity (probably communications between the two of them). If she has evidence and they can track spending/records to corroborate the accusation, should be pretty simple to prove that he is cheating. Also track his phone records for the past 4 months and see that he’s in Arizona

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We have been married for 1.5 years and he has been cheating on me since October. He wants to stay in the USA and has said he will remarry someone else when we divorce to stay. Help what can/should I do? I have a bunch of evidence of his infidelity and fraud. 3 weeks after he got his conditional green card he fled with his Mistress.

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Consultant 4, you’re my new go to person

OP, I’d also post this in the Women in Consulting bowl for advice (whether you’re a woman or not) - lots of great advice and helpful people there. If you don’t have access, I’m happy to post a link to this post from that bowl.

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Take care of yourself first. It’s a lot of hurt and I hope you realized you are still young and it is not your fault. Know that he is the one who is at loss for taking someone who loves his so much for granted. Focus on self love and then find community that could help you get out of this relationship ASAP. Keep the evidence of his infidelity and if able, hire an immigration lawyer to help you.

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You have great answers already. Yes, document everything and do what is right for you. You deserve better. Life/justice will take care of your ex. As a man, loyal husband, and first generation immigrant, I hope these guy gets deported. He cheated on you and the system.

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It’s not that easy. Specially for you since you will be investigated as well and ICE may see you as an accomplice. I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s definitely your call but I just wanted to offer a few words of support. *hugs*

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I’m not familiar with ICE’s operational processes re:fraud, but wouldn’t it make OP look less guilty if they reported this themselves rather than waiting for ICE to potentially discover this on their own?

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Stop thinking divorce, and file for an annulment! Green card fraud is grounds for an annulment in NY.

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OP- I’m sorry you are going through this! If you don’t want stress - Don’t get involved with ICE, it will be messy and require you to appear in court and give all kind of statements. Your husband could also lie and say you had agreed to an arrangement which could potentially result to your arrest. Divorce him ASAP, take all the $ you can and leave him in the past. This pandemic has been a blessing, you took out the trash!

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IANAL, but DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT.

Dates, times, direct quotes. Screenshots. Save everything. Look out for #1!

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Yikes this is why I don’t want to marry an American (I’m international). Lots of regular marriages end up in divorce for different reasons, but when green card marriage does fail, the first assumption is always because the foreigner took advantage of the American one and not because of real love at one point. Although in your case, your husband seems premeditated, so that’s different.

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This is probably very rare though. It would be good to see a statistic of what happens at divorce in many of these cases (and I presume parties generally move on). This kind of story sucks, but it’s somewhat sensational and likely not representative.

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Don't report him to ICE. Contact a lawyer, and let the lawyer do that process. That way you're prepared and protected for any complications.

But yeah, I'd stop being at all cooperative with this man. You're so much better than him. He didn't care about your happiness, so it's time for you to take control of it.

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Don’t do anything. Move forward. Let karma do it’s thing.

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I'm sorry to hear that. Unfortunately, cheating is not evidence of a fraudulent marriage just a failed one.

Once it comes time for him to file the I-751 to remove conditions, he can do it without you with proof of his bona fide marriage to you and a divorce waiver.

I understand you're hurt but your only options are (1) annul the marriage for fraud, which will hamper his immigration case or (2) move on.

You decide what's best for you and work with your attorney.

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Hi OP, does your firm offer legal insurance? If so, use it. It may give you some financial relief.

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OP, how are you doing?

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If you report him to immigration for marriage fraud, he will be investigated and may lose the residency status and get deported. Also, if you divorce him before he becomes a permanent resident, immigration will not grant him the permanent residency.

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Divorce does not automatically terminate his right to residency, USCIS will look into the motive. If it's a no-fault divorce they'll dig into the circumstances if only to satisfy themselves it wasn't a fraudulent marriage to begin with. If it is an at fault divorce they'll go with the judge's decision.

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OP - i’ve no advice for you, but having been with a scumbag narcissist myself, i’m just very very sorry for you. I had shivers just reading what you went thru and had flashback of my life (which wasn’t even fraction as hard as yours)

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OP I am going through a similar greed card process with my wife. You need to speak to am immigration lawyer immediately!

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@Manager 2 I just sent you a message

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